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Mary Russell's avatar

You're wrote my inarticulate feelings. I had to take a deep breath while reading. A 1936 baby, I was invisible for all of my growing up years. It's hard to outgrow those reactive feelings, but I try and your words this week gave me a feeling of 'not aloneness. ' Thank you, Rachael Freed.

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RACHAEL’S REFLECTIONS AT 85's avatar

Thank you, Mary. Your comment touched me - to know I am not alone. Keep at loving your real self - I think that is the first and all-important step to freedom from all that would look like being seen but isn’t.

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Susie Kaufman's avatar

Much appreciated. This is a very brave piece. And very compassionate. You don't blame your father or your ex-husband. You see them for who they are.

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Rachael Freed's avatar

Thanks, Susie. I always appreciate your feedback on my writing.

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Michael Ziomko's avatar

Still stuck on the patriarchy issue: I think one of the reasons women put up with men, as much or little as they do, is that they are the men's mothers. And how much does that contribute to not being seen? Thanks, Rachael. Michael

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Rachael Freed's avatar

Not stuck, just continue to see how pervasive it is generally and its effects on my life.

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